IsoTpParallelQuery: extend timeout for each ISO-TP frame (#25897)

* raise timeouts

* extend timeout for each message/frame (not multi-frame full response)

* bump panda

* 100 ms timeout between frames (max I've seen is 20, should be good)

* bump panda

* remove unused

* Add tester present to HKG queries (temp)

* send tester present to all ecus first

* vin and fw_versions.py sleep, should figure out why sendcan drops packets

* None is wildcard (some ecus respond with negative code, that's fine)

* typing

* try bus 0

* revert brand-specific changes

* Update selfdrive/car/isotp_parallel_query.py

panda

@@ -1 +1 @@
-Subproject commit 10c0991666865feb734120f2544586d461292866
+Subproject commit 5984fd35096a9e3f9748435868ad49a199d4404d

selfdrive/car/isotp_parallel_query.py

@@ -1,7 +1,6 @@
 import time
 from collections import defaultdict
 from functools import partial
-from typing import Optional
 
 import cereal.messaging as messaging
 from system.swaglog import cloudlog
@@ -107,12 +106,15 @@ class IsoTpParallelQuery:
 
       for tx_addr, msg in msgs.items():
         try:
-          dat: Optional[bytes] = msg.recv()
+          dat, updated = msg.recv()
         except Exception:
           cloudlog.exception(f"Error processing UDS response: {tx_addr}")
           request_done[tx_addr] = True
           continue
 
+        if updated:
+          response_timeouts[tx_addr] = time.monotonic() + timeout
+
         if not dat:
           continue
 
@@ -121,7 +123,6 @@ class IsoTpParallelQuery:
         response_valid = dat[:len(expected_response)] == expected_response
 
         if response_valid:
-          response_timeouts[tx_addr] = time.monotonic() + timeout
           if counter + 1 < len(self.request):
             msg.send(self.request[counter + 1])
             request_counter[tx_addr] += 1